Good
morning my fellow classmates. My name is Vu Thi Le Huong and I come from
department of Mass Communication. Before start my presentation, I wanna ask all
off you guys some questions.
1st
question : Do you know what is physical punishment?
2nd
question : Have you ever suffered from physical punishment in your childhood?
Today
I'm going to present about physical force to punishing children issue. Do you
think that physical force is needed to educate your child between right and
wrong? If you do think like that, this is the time to changes your mind.
There
are many parents, they believe that for the child’s sake that they have the
right to discipline the child in any way they see fit, including using corporal
punishment. The second point is corporal punishment can be quick and effective:
there is not much point reasoning with a screaming child in the supermarket.
Finally, most parents are reasonable and fair, and very few would ever consider
hurting their children by using unnecessary physical force.
I
want to show you several reasons to improve that these parents were wrong.
First
of all, children learn attitude and behaviors through observation and imitation
from their parent’s action. I have read a classic story about the mother who
believed that spanking as a necessary part to educate her child between right
and wrong. Until one day, she observed her 3 year old daughter slap her 1 year
old son when he screaming. And she never spanked her child again.
Through
this story, I want to tell you that, children perceived that it okay for them
to do whatever you do and they will learn that force is acceptable factor in
human life. That is the 1st
reason support for my statement.
Second
reason, when we use the physical force to children in public places, they will
feel humiliate, loose self respect, lose their trust in parent and they will
build up resentment. Day by day, it cannot be resolved and it might be leading
to some misbehavior in the future.
From
my own experience, I have been spanked by my parents and I hated it. It did
absolutely nothing to stop me from doing the same things over again. And it
made me fearful of my own parents. There was no age that the spanking would end
and it felt like they were just releasing their anger on me instead of
disciplining me. I ended up resenting my parents.
Use
of physical force is one of the fastest ways to ruin a child. Physical force
only causes more problems, and it also makes children believe that causing pain
can be justified. Rather than using physical force, it is better to talk with
children and try to seek for more peaceful solution.
Hitting,
slapping, screaming promote anger in both child and parent. If parent is lose
control, it will leading to physical abuse.
And you can see that, physical force does not work and some time it
makes your child against you and its left very bad memories in their
childhood.
The
third reason is related to parents. Most of them are not trained to misbehaving
children. They do not have enough resources or choices to handle the situation.
As a result, they immediately react by smacking or hitting the child, even if
there are other solutions to the problem. Another point is that unless people
are challenged or forced to change their beliefs they may keep following
negative habits. That was the way they brought up themselves and that it didn’t
do any harm to them. They are totally wrong. Parents have to change some of
their beliefs and ideas about how children should be raised, how to educate
their child between right and wrong without physical force, how to deal with
the challenges in daily life.
Finally,
avoiding physical force is the way to removing violent from our society.
Children growth up with love will raise love.
I hope several reasons above can make you got stronger believe that you
should not use physical punishment as a tool to educate your child. Rising them
by love and patient.
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